So, it’s a Friday night and my boyfriend and I were having a conversation about love. Now, I’m not talking about the sappy “I love you, I love you more” conversation. We were talking about love not being free.
However, I never really thought about love having a price, until this conversation. He told me about how love has a price and it always will. I was interested in what he meant so I continued to listen. He asked me, “Would you still love me if I didn’t pay for any of our dates, buy you anything for Christmas, or your birthday?”
I replied saying that, if he couldn’t afford it, I would understand. He then responded by saying, even if he could afford it, but didn’t do it anyway. would I still give him a chance and fall in love with him? I thought about it, and the blunt honest truth is no.
It sounds terrible. However, ladies, let me ask you this; would you give that man a chance either? Be honest. I don’t think half of us would stay with a guy if we were stuck with all the bills. In reality, love is expensive. I can’t tell if it’s because some women want constant love, attention, and gifts or if it’s because men think that materialistic things are what win women over.
In my opinion, I think it’s a combination of both. Honestly, some women want a man who will give them constant attention, put them before anything in their life, make time whenever they want time, buy them everything they’ve ever wanted, give them a diamond heavy enough to way their finger down… may I continue?
I mean that’s not what all women want. But, without those things, would some women ever give any man a chance? Would I be dating my boyfriend for two and a half years if he never bought me a thing or paid for our dates, even if he could afford it? I don’t think so. I know there’s going to be those girls out there who are going to deny they think any of this and say all they want is love.
I promise you that eventually, down the line, when you run into “that guy” you will turn around and run. By “that guy” I mean the guy that pays for nothing, does not get you any gifts no matter how long you’ve been dating, and never takes you anywhere.
Every relationship requires give and take. I doubt my boyfriend would date me if I didn’t give him a birthday gift or Christmas present and had the money to do so. It’s just a nice way to show someone close to you how much you really care. If you have the means to show someone you care, do it.
Besides, getting someone a gift in those two situations is one of the littlest things you can do to show someone you care. Now, I’m not a girl who dreams to be the queen of the world and be showered with gifts and diamonds.
I am a girl, however, that appreciates and is thankful that I have a boyfriend who does those things for me. I love that he takes me to dinner, to the movies, and buys me pretty things, but he does those things because he wants to, not because I ask for gifts and feed off of him like a leech.
I think this just shows some women, in a weird way, that a man cares about them. In most cases, people are usually dating somebody because they see them as a potential spouse. I think some women see how well a man can provide some materialistic support to a relationship to see a sneak peek of how well they will help provide for a family in the future.
I don’t think the man who never took you to the movies would be a smart choice for somebody to help support you once you’re married. Also, I am not saying that women need financial support. That’s why we’re here at college, to get knowledge and have a career and be able to support ourselves.
However, a man who is willing to put some money – not all – into a relationship is a quality a lot of women look for. So no, love is not free. It’s the harsh reality of things. With that said, I don’t expect everyone to agree with me.
Susy Macias
Senior Viewpoint Editor
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