When I was in grammar school, I remember being bullied for the most simple things and I remember feeling hate in my heart. Luckily over the years, I have learned to forgive and move on from such feelings.
I forgave them by heart. Ceasing to judge them was my first step. Each person has a history and a different growth that we do not know, and that has led them to be in such ways.
Perhaps they would not have chosen to be, but their experiences, what was their childhood, their adolescence, and now in their adulthood.
They reverberate. The lack of love, mistreatment, abuse, bullying, not belonging, and perhaps how many more … are all very painful experiences that leave human beings very hurt and if these wounds have not been healed, these people cannot give what they do not have, and instead they can cause a lot of damage, because they will harbor complexes of fear and insecurity, due to the lack of self-love.
Ultimately hurting the lives of those around them, without wanting to; or in others, perhaps they are self-defense mechanisms, so as not to feel more hurt, more vulnerable and in some way kill their pain … the truth is that we, we do not know anything, and if we do, we could put ourselves in their shoes, and for Just imagine that I am that person.
Perhaps if I had experienced the same from them it would not be the same or worse? You might even stumble over their steps.
If this person hurt you, it was not their fault, it is what they carry inside that prevents them from loving or doing it healthily.
The only culprit is the destiny that crossed your path, but when you forgive, that guilt is transformed into gratitude, which makes you see that painful experience as learning is a necessary battle to make you stronger.
You have two options, one is to stay with this resentment that hurts you enormously, with it, you do not cause that person pain, you only cause it to yourself.
The other option is to free them from that guilt, pulling away from those chains, which embitter your present moment and prevent you from being happy to that person with your forgiveness you do not cause absolutely anything, but you give yourself a package of things that will transform your life, freedom, peace, wisdom, strength, humility, and love because by healing from that wound caused by someone damaged by lack of love, you will now be able to continue loving, as if no one had ever harmed you and with this, you take away the power to decide how to feel in your life. It’s your choice.