Whether you want to believe it or not, we all have a friend or relative that are always negative. No matter the situation they always have something pessimistic to add, which sadly kills the mood in the room. At one point or another you have thought, “Should I cut ties with them?” The answer to that is if they are not contributing to your life in a positive way, then absolutely open the door for them and walk them out.
When debating on whether or not it is a good decision to cut ties with a person in your life, you may wonder if it is appropriate because after all they are family or you have been friends with them for years. These thoughts are normal due to the toxic person being in your life for such a long period, but it should not be the only reason you keep them around.
If a person does not contribute positively to your life, then chances are they are only holding you back from bigger accomplishments. Have you ever had a friend that no matter how good the news you share with them they also have to add a fact about it to tear it down a little bit? Then after they do it they say, “But I am really happy for you!” They still seem happy for you, but they just tore your big news down and made it seem not so important.
Friends who never are happy for you or try to one up you with grades, relationships, physical appearance, etc are not friends. They are a person who wants to be you or be better than you. A friendship is about building each other up, even when you are not on the same level of life as them just yet. Everyone’s journey is different so if you support them and they do not support you, it is time to let them go.
It is very understandable if a person is hesitant to cutting off a family member, because after all they are family. The thing is family are supposed to love, support, and care for your well being. If a relative says cruel words that cut you deep, or slaps you with, “You can do better” then they are not contributing anything but pain and sadness to your life.
If you are also worried about seeing your relative at a family gathering something to remember is, you can be civil to them for a night and still not want them to be apart of your everyday life. It is not “fake” to be kind to someone even if you do not care for them. It is a part of growing as a person, which is something the person you don’t care for probably never learned.
Negativity from anyone in your life should not be accepted. It is easier said than done, but once you distance or remove a toxic person from your life, the weight on your shoulders doesn’t seem as heavy anymore. Life’s too short to surround yourself with people who do not make you feel whole. Sometimes letting people go is the best option for you to truly be happy.