Does Age Matter In A Relationship?

Amanda Gollaz

October 4th, 2017

Does age really matter in relationships? Would you date someone younger than you or older than you? What is your cut off age?

Let me tell you a story. I was a freshman in college. I had just started at the University of Illinois at Chicago.      I wasn’t even thinking about boys at the time. I was still figuring myself out until he walked into my life. 

His name will remain anonymous, but I will say he will always be in my life for a specific reason.

At the time, I had broken up with an ex boyfriend so I wasn’t thinking of getting into any relationship. I always thought he was handsome, but I didn’t think we would talk more than just friends until he asked for my number.

I was a little hesitant because of his age. I was nineteen and he was seventeen.

I was young so age didn’t really matter to me because I thought he acted mature, but boy was I wrong.

After maybe a month or two, things began to change. He kept secrets from me, he didn’t really want to hang out anymore, and he kept his phone next to him more.

He was acting like a kid. One day, he texted me a full story breaking up with me because he “fell in love” with his best friend, which I didn’t know his best friend was a girl.

I was devastated and angry at the same time because who ends things with someone through text message?

In my opinion, I don’t think age matters in a relationship because you can date someone who is 28 and he can still act like a child like Mr. Matthew Justice.

I had met Matthew at a country bar a while back. Usually when you meet someone at a bar, it’s not really a “thing.”      People go to bars to drink and have fun. Matthew had asked me to dance and so I did.

We ended up chatting all night; to the point where we asked personal questions because we both seemed interested.

After the night ended, we exchanged Snapchats because apparently that’s the trend nowadays. The next day, we snapchatted through texting all day, asking more questions to try to get to know each other more.

Everything was going great from what I thought. After hanging out once, things began to change, of course.

I would send him a message and he wouldn’t respond. Then he would finally respond something that made no sense.

After a while of communicating briefly, I decided to ask him what was going on? To remind you, I sent this text through Snapchat.

He read the message and deleted me off Snapchat. I had no idea what had happened.

I was so confused, but I decided to let it go. If he wanted to act like a child, then that’s someone else’s problem now.

After a month from now, I received a notification on Snapchat that Matt sent me a Snapchat message.

I was definitely confused again what was going on. He had sent me “hi.” I sent him a message back asking him what happened.

He told me he was afraid to get into a relationship, but that wasn’t the case. I already knew he stopped talking to me because he was seeing someone else as well.

I told him I already knew and of course, he didn’t respond and had deleted me again. Does age matter in a relationship?

According to some friends, it only matters if there is a two- year difference, but if you’re over twenty-one, then after that age doesn’t matter.

A friend said it’s okay if someone is twenty-two and their dating a thirty three-year old and if they are ready to settle down and want the same things.

According to another friend, age is nothing but a number, but is it? I’ve dated younger and older and they’ve turned out TERRIBLE!

A friend said he was nineteen and he dated thirty-three year old. They lasted a week because she wanted to settle down and start a family, but he wasn’t ready for it.

Age doesn’t matter in some circumstances, age matters. I couldn’t picture myself dating someone who is over thirty because I am twenty-four.

As previously said, age isn’t but a number. Anyone can date anyone they want. If you want to date someone who is fifty, go right ahead. Good luck.

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